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I’ll be honest: I don’t always love the names of my podcast episodes. If I could go back, I probably would have named Episode 40 something different. I’ve gotten into the habit of naming the show only after I finish editing, hoping the title will “reveal” itself. But when I’m editing late at night and naming the episode is the one thing standing between me and finally hitting publish, sometimes I just grab the first halfway-decent idea that pops up. And so we ended up with the title: “Good Grief: Navigating grief with compassion and honesty.” The phrase good grief  stuck with me—not in a comforting way, but in a slightly ironic, almost satirical way. It felt too light for something so heavy. I kept asking myself: What is good about grief?  The obvious answer felt like: nothing. But then another truth surfaced: what if the point isn’t to judge our emotions as “good” or “bad” at all? Letting Emotions Be What They Are That, in many ways, is what this episode explores — the practice of letting emotions arise naturally and meeting them without judgment. Grief isn’t inherently good or bad; it just is . It’s the emotional imprint of a life event that shakes us, shapes us, and asks us to move through it with as much honesty as we can. And let me be clear: I’m not claiming to be an expert on grief or depression. In fact, I’m sure there’s more I need to learn from people far more knowledgeable than me. I’m simply sharing what I’m walking through in real time because I believe these conversations matter. For me, choosing not to judge my emotions has created more space for all of them — the heavy, the tender, the confusing, the beautiful. Instead of shutting down feelings the moment they appear, I’m learning to let them move through me. Letting Myself Be Human, Even When Others Are Watching The other day, a friend called me just before I was about to pick up my son and two of his friends. We talked about my recent loss, and I could feel that familiar tightness in my throat. For a split second, I thought about hitting the EXIT button and collecting myself before stepping into “mom mode.” But then something inside me said, It’s okay if they see you being human. So I stayed on the phone. I wrapped her warm words around my heart and wept. I wouldn’t have hesitated to cry if they had been tears of laughter or joy. But sadness? We tend to hide that one. Maybe it’s vulnerability. Maybe it’s conditioning. Maybe it’s wanting to look “together” for the people who rely on us. Truthfully, this wasn’t the first time I’ve tried to hide my sadness. I’ve done the quiet bathroom cry more than once. And sure, my family has seen me cry before — but usually at the “appropriate” moments: at a funeral, after a sad movie, during a meaningful goodbye. Somewhere along the line, my mommy training has taught me I that emotions should be compartmentalized, neatly tucked away until a socially acceptable window opens. But grief doesn’t care about scheduling. And as it turns out, when the boys climbed into the car, not one of them even noticed. They’re 14-year-old boys, after all. The Gift This Loss Has Given Me Strangely — and tenderly — the best gift this loss has given me is permission. Permission to cry when I need to. Permission to feel deeply without apologizing. Permission to show up as a full human being, not just the curated version of myself. I believe that’s a gift to my husband and especially to my children, too. The more I allow my emotions to be seen, the more I create space for theirs. I used to worry about overwhelming them with “adult emotions.” But if anyone is naturally connected to their feelings, it’s children. By hiding my sadness, I was hiding a part of myself — a part they deserve to know. I never want my children to think they must shrink or hide their own feelings to make others comfortable. Being honest about what I’m feeling helps them know me more. And in a way, it helps me know me more too. So, circling back to the title of Episode 40: while I still might rename it if I could, I’m seeing it differently now. This grief has, in its own complicated way, been good  for me. It has opened my heart, strengthened my relationships, and helped me understand myself more clearly. That’s what this season is teaching me. If You’re Moving Through Grief Too If you’re navigating loss — or simply navigating being human — I hope you’ll listen to the full conversation in this week’s episode. I recorded it with honesty, tenderness, and a desire to walk alongside anyone feeling something big right now. 💛 Listen to Episode 40: “Good Grief: Navigating grief with compassion and honesty” (click here) Thank you for being here. Truly.Feel what you feel. Let it move through you. And know that you’re not alone.

I honestly cannot remember the moment I thought - " Hey, I think I'm going to publish a podcast!"  If you've listened to any of my podcasts, specifically the one titled "Why I'm Such a Quitter", you may have learned that sometimes I get a brilliant idea (at least I think it's brilliant) and I go in guns blazing toward whatever project I'm envisioning, only to have it fizzle out a short time later. Despite the fact that I can't remember the exact moment this project came into my mind, I just can't stop thinking about it. I've been a writer for as long as I've been able to write and I started vlogging as a time saving way to stay on top of my ponderings after I had children. I guess from that view point, it makes sense that I would want to publish out into the world some of my curious musings. At first this really just started as a fun creative thing to do. I recorded episodes in my small home office and edited them in between the kids' bath times and school drop offs. When pandemic hit, I reprioritized my time and put away this fun "pastime" to focus on surviving the shelter in place. At the time I told myself, " well, this was just a for fun project anyway, I can put it away." The problem is, this podcast has lived in my mind and heart for the past five years. During this five year break, I have continued to write, journal, tell stories, and vlog, but I haven't published anything. This "fun project" started to feel less like a pastime, and more like a calling. What I've come to realize, perhaps from pandemic or the current mass illegal deportations, is the power of telling stories, highlighting truths, and breaking open silences about the human experience. This world feels so divided right now, and it has felt like that for so long. The divisions we create between one another, the huge chasms the exist between us are all illusions. The more silent we become about the truth of who we are; our struggles, our dreams, our lives, the more we perpetuate this illusion of separation. The truth is we are all so connected to one another. The simple truth of living on this planet together inextricably links us in ways that are hard to imagine, but impossible to deny. I feel called to tell my stories, the funny ones, the sad ones, the embarrassing ones, the hard ones. I feel called to learn more stories, because for me, learning other stories helps me to not only learn more about myself, but it helps me to learn more about the world. Looking out our windows it's not hard to find anger, hatred, and violence so fierce it can be overwhelming and hard to understand. A sense of community comes from stories about people who are like us and compassion and understanding lives within stories from people who are nothing like us. All of these delicate, and truthful stories told out loud become the threads that bring us together; challenging misconceptions, reinforcing values, and providing information that has the power to mobilize. That's what this space is. It's a space to listen, to learn, and to speak all of our truths Out Loud in the hopes that our colorful and diverse stories will shed light onto the darkest parts of the World. Here's to your stories and mine. Impact-Site-Verification: 97912a16-a48c-4845-a815-139c48294ef2 xoxox, Elena